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Happily ever after? Not really, many wives say

Survey: Most have considered leaving husband, and other shocking finds

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When asked whether they think their husband is their soul mate, 52% of wives said no. And, according to the survey, a whopping 72% of women have considered leaving their husband at some point.
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updated 5:15 p.m. ET June 24, 2009

All you need is love? Lennon and McCartney may have thought so, but women know better. Ask any of us and we’ll readily admit that wedded bliss isn’t always so blissful. That’s just one of the secrets more than 35,000 women revealed when Woman’s Day and AOL Living teamed up to find out what really goes on behind closed doors.

McDreamy? More like McCharming
Women share what they find most alluring about their men. Numbers expressed are in percentages.

A chart from Woman's Day that shows percentage of women and why they were first attracted to their husbands.

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A chart from Woman's Day that shows percentage of women and what they now find most attractive about their husbands.

The fairy tale fantasy
We can’t get enough of those “boy meets girl and the rest is history” stories in the movies, but destiny and fate don’t play much of a role in real-life love. At least that’s what the majority of you think.

When asked whether you think your husband is your soul mate, 52% of you said no.

A chart from Woman's Day that shows how women would describe their marriage.

For better or worse
Although a whopping 72% of you have considered leaving your husband at some point, and more than half of you (57%) sometimes regret marrying him, you’re still in it for the long haul: 71% of you expect to be married to your spouse for the rest of your life.

A chart from Woman's Day that shows how often women say they go on date nights with their husbands.

A chart from Woman's Day that shows how women rate their sex lives.

Wow! More than half of you are bored in bed or can’t even remember the last time you got intimate? No wonder an overwhelming 79% of you want to have sex more often!

A chart from Woman's Day that reveals how often women say their husbands say "I love you."
A chart from Woman's Day that shows what women say they wish their husbands would do more often.
A chart from Woman's Day that reveals what women say they argue about most with their husbands.

Should divorces be harder to get? 54% said no, while 46% said yes.

Do you consider flirting cheating? 60% said no, 40% said yes.

Do you trust your husband? 66% said yes, 34% said no.

Are men like fine wine?
Apparently not. Nearly half of you (46%) admit that your husband has changed for the worse since you said “I do.” About a quarter of you (26%) are luckily married to men who’ve actually gotten better with age. And the rest? 28% of you say your spouse is the same as the day you married him.

Should couples stay together for the sake of the children, no matter what? 79% of you said no, 21% said yes.


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